Of Hens and Concerts
Another one of my erratic entries, marking my passage through time and space..
Last weekend we had a terrific time celebrating Fei's Hen night. Great dinner party at the Tapas Tree (she had the band there to serenade her personally) and then a personal lapdance by the delectable 'sydney' at Gotham Penthouse. It's Fei's night alright. Good choice for dinner and partying. We didn't get back to Merchant court hotel till almost 3am in the morning. Must admit that staying at the hotel was a great incentive in staying out late because no need to worry about transport (since its only 5 minutes walk away from Tapas Tree and Gotham Penthouse). What joy! Everyone was prepared to be high and truth to be told, our lady in question threw up within the first hour.
Kudos to Fio & MH for coming with the clubbing and dinner suggestions. I was only in charge in putting it altogether but it couldn't have happened if the Fabulous Fei herself wasn't such a great sport. I mean only a really cool gal could say that she wanted a Sex Toy party for her own hen night, and boy, with such a theme, it only spurred me on to really having a great night out. The sex toys (all from a nice little shop in Bugis) possibly freaked out some of the 'innocent' but then, it meant double the fun for those of us who are more 'worldly' in our perspective. Its still good clean fun, after all, she IS getting MARRIED. Good sexual relationship between couples plays a pretty big part in maintaining a good marriage le! *chortles*
Anyway, was a little stressed when some of the invitees suddenly cancelled (whats a hen party without the people??) but must say that most of us pulled through, esp LS, that despite her 'innocence', still came and 'supported' the party. Hahaha and i think she actually learnt a bit of things too. :D
Hmmm.... its good that sometimes i write things after a while instead of immediately after the event, because i think after the weekend, i was feeling a little miffed over some of the occurences that had happened and some people's own personal views had bothered me quite a bit. After a week though, i am glad to say only most of the happy memories remained and all that matters was that Fei had a great time (though she had probably hoped for more than 1 lapdance from the hunk). By next saturday, she will be married and hopefully this is one hen night she will always remember.
Moving on....
This week, was suddenly roped into helping out with our sister school's 20th anniversary concert that happened last night. Was a wonderful concert and the kids that performed were fantastic. Wished that i was involved earlier than being roped in suddenly last friday because i think i would be more effective as a backstage crew who needed to keep order and maintain flow of the concert items, if i knew the children a little bit more. Most of the performers were from the group D'artistes which comprised of young adults and children with special needs. They were absolutely fantastic and if any chance that they are going to be involved in other performances, i would pay to watch them.
Our staff and our school kids also performed and it had been two months of hard work and juggling their other responsibilities on top of that, to make the concert a success. Think that they really did well. Too bad i couldn't watch the performance because i was stuck backstage threatening anyone who talk too loudly, but feedback from friends and colleagues was that everyone was fantastic. The backstage crew were mainly from the other school but since i am around long enough to know most of the professional staff (and perhaps for other people to know me), it wasn't long before me and LS (who was in the same predicament as I) fitted right in. There is a sense of belonging that people get (yes, even self-professed anti-social prone person like me) when working together for a common cause and this is something that i have not felt for a while at work, especially with staff from another school.
In a cynical way, involvement like this, does do something in terms of the kind of image one projects to others. For a while, people had felt a little standoffish around me due to the kind of responsibility and work i had to do with them (long story and old baggage) but seeing me run around mad and working on my knees sort of 'humanizes' the 'bitchy' impression people sometimes have based on what they heard about me. One of things i realized (though not necessary agree with totally) is that to get the work you need done, some sort of 'personal' relationship and support does play a part. After all, it doesn't matter how "professional" & "by the books" you conduct yourself and how well your product is, if people think you are going to be a bitch to them (even if its only a perception and you are not one), they tend to not cooperate with you very much.
Hence, it reaffirms that i am only suited to work with two groups in my life... kids and animals. Older humans are just too confusing in my opinion, in the things they say and the actions they do. Too much 'politics' and motives and hidden agendas. While i appreciate that one has to be nice (which i am generally), but to 'play nice' just so that people can like you enough to work with you... is just... uncomfortable. I am lucky that generally people like my personality and doesn't really think that i am a bitch (well, aside the past baggage that's lumped onto me, not of my choice) but i think my own personality will only insulate me only for only so long because, i am not one who 'play nice'.
